The Energy Fix Episode 104 - FINAL.mp3
2025-02-27
Transcript
0:00:13 Tansy Rodgers: Welcome back to the Energy Fix, a podcast dedicated to help you balance your energetic body by diving deep into the sweet world of all things health and spirituality. My name’s Tansy and I’m an intuitive crystal Reiki energy healer, energetic nutrition and holistic health practitioner, and a crystal jewelry designer. It’s time to talk all things energy.
0:00:38 B: Let’s dive in.
0:00:40 Tansy Rodgers: What if the secret to deeper, more fulfilling relationships wasn’t about fixing yourself, but about truly knowing yourself? So often self help rhetoric tells us that we need to do more, to.
0:00:57 B: Heal more, to improve more.
0:00:59 Tansy Rodgers: Like we’re always one breakthrough away from being worthy of love or connection or joy. But what if true self empowerment was about embracing where you are right now? What if pleasure, ease and self trust were just as powerful as the deep inner work? Because I’ll tell you from personal experience that deep inner work is can get exhausting. And that’s exactly what we’re going to dive in today with Krista Kujot. Now, you’re going to hear me call her Raya.
0:01:35 Tansy Rodgers: That is what she goes by when she’s talking to friends and people that she feels comfortable and confident around. Christa is kind of her, I think, as she described it, her work, her business name. So you’re going to hear me calling her Raya. She is a powerhouse when it comes to sovereign relating, self awareness and breaking free from inherited patterns. So you can relate to yourself and others in a way that feels more aligned, feels more empowered.
0:02:08 Tansy Rodgers: She has worn many hats. She’s been an environmental scientist, an actress, trauma therapist and a retreat leader. But at the core of all of her work is this deep passion for for helping people to liberate themselves from outdated beliefs about love, sensuality and self expression. And honestly, this conversation fits just so perfectly with something that I’ve been working on in my own creative space. And that’s my new rhythm and Rise 2025 jewelry collection.
0:02:43 Tansy Rodgers: The energy behind this collection is all about actually stepping into your personal rhythm, trusting the rise of your own journey, embodying your truth unapologetically, letting go of the things that aren’t aligned and don’t serve you anymore, and to be able to be supportive and step forward with confidence into the new opportunities that are opening. So if today’s conversation resonates with you, you’re going to want to check that out.
0:03:14 Tansy Rodgers: If you go down to the show notes, you can click on beocrystals.com and you’ll find the Rhythm and Rise collection right over there. Now, in this episode today, we’re going to be exploring things with Raya. Things such as like how the self help world can sometimes push us into a fixing mindset that actually keeps us stuck. What self love actually looks like in relationships beyond the buzzwords of it all.
0:03:44 Tansy Rodgers: You know how to trust your desires and embrace pleasure as part of your heal healing process and ways to break free from inherited relational patterns embodying sovereign intimacy. It is such a deep conversation. It is insightful, energizing and full of aha moments. I had so many aha moments in this conversation so I encourage you to settle in and get ready to really feel deeply seen. Now before we jump into all this, there’s just a few updates that that I want to tell you about.
0:04:20 Tansy Rodgers: I have something really big that’s coming in April and I can’t spill all the details just yet, but let me tell you, it is a brand new offering that has been brewing in my soul for quite a while now and I cannot wait to share it with you. So stay tuned for the official announcement which is coming soon. And if you are really wanting to connect in person, to either connect with me or to see some of the jewelry and some of the pieces that I do make, you can come and check me out at Divine Collaboration Expo in Gettysburg, Pennsylvania on March 22nd and 23rd. That’s where I’m going to be next.
0:05:01 Tansy Rodgers: I have expos going all year long but that’s going to be my next one. It’s going to be an incredible weekend that’s full of energy, healing, deep conversations, soul aligned connections, metaphysical beauties. Oh it’s going to be amazing. So make sure to mark your calendar and don’t forget if you are loving the conversation today. Raya does have some beautiful gifts that she has prepared for you. So you can grab a free audio recording of poems from her book and enter her free monthly giveaway over on her [email protected]
0:05:39 Tansy Rodgers: you can grab that link down in the show notes. All right, it is time to dive into this conversation with Raya. So let’s dive in.
0:05:53 B: Welcome to the Energy Fix Raya. I am so excited to have you here today.
0:05:57 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Oh thank you. I’m delighted to be here.
0:06:01 B: You know I think it’s kind of interesting whenever I have guests on where they are wordsmiths and they love talking about words or they have work surrounding words which you do. We’re going to be talking about your amazing book and we’re going to be talking all about the power of everyday words. But before we get there, I am so Curious about the word that you are embodying right now, the word that is really exemplifying who you are at this season of your life.
0:06:29 B: Do you have a word or even a phrase that you’re connecting to right now?
0:06:35 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Yes. If I were to choose one word, it would be amplify. And for me, that encompasses the element of shining and radiating effortlessly and extensively, generously, while having that radiant ripple effect on others and in the world. So it’s ample. Amplifying my inner light through expression is really what that means to me.
0:07:09 B: So I love to ask then the follow up question because I find that sometimes the words that we choose at the points in our life or what’s going on around us can be really challenging. So the word amplifying, shining your radiance, effortlessly being that light, especially during times that are a little turbulent right now, how are you doing that? What are you doing to connect to that deeper?
0:07:40 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Oh, that is such a great question. And you know, if I were to give myself this word 10 years ago, it would have been very different though in this era of my life, something that I’m really passionate about now, right now, is to simplify things in order to be in those states of peace and calm and relaxation where there’s. It’s free from reaching for a certain way of being or expressing or creating, and it’s more about just being it. And then in terms of, you know, in the face of the outside world, one of the things that I’ve had a practice of now for a while is being really discerning about what I consume.
0:08:38 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So in terms of news, politically, in terms of entertainment like the TV or I don’t even have a TV anymore. But in terms of like Netflix or streaming movies or tv, I really have discovered that when I consume violence of any kind, it affects my dream state, it affects how I feel. And you know, as an energy worker, I’m sure that you relate to this. Our feelings are such indicators of the energy that we carry and then express in the world. And so one of the things that I make a habit of being very mindful of is what I consume.
0:09:30 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And then that allows me to have a more precious and sacred relationship with my feelings and to nurture the states of being that allow me to create effortlessly, that allow me to express effortlessly, that allow me to invest my time, energy and resources into people and places and projects that are effortless and prolific and have a positive influence. Influence in some way. So it’s being, you know, like getting better and better at those guardrails around my creativity and my relationship with myself.
0:10:16 B: I love that. And so many people think that creatives cannot be in a container, that they cannot have the guidelines, the guardrails, the bumpers. But in reality, we need that to be at our most creative state. You know, I just had this amazing conversation literally last night in one of my energy healing sessions with my client who said that that she’s really struggling with bringing in the abundance, with keeping her energy high, with not getting so consumed in her thoughts.
0:10:50 B: And during her session, what came up was that she’s getting more sensitive because she’s healing. And as she’s healing, she’s becoming more vulnerable. And it is crit for her right now to really make sure, well, I shouldn’t say for right now, but from now and on, that she’s really monitoring what she’s taking in, who she’s around, the energy that she’s consuming and being enveloped in. So, yes, yes, that’s huge.
0:11:25 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: I love this connection that you’re making between the sensitivity and healing. Because something I’m really passionate about in the venture of redefining everyday words is reframing these words that we’ve used for years that can sometimes have negative connotations. And from my perspective and also my life experience, sensitivity was one of those words. It was something to overcome, to, you know, become stronger, to build up a thick skin and to be able to be in the world and through that process, becoming numb to the senses.
0:12:06 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And it’s, as you’re saying, when we heal, we get more sensitive and we get more attuned to ourselves and to external energy outside of ourselves. So I’m very passionate about reframing those generative qualities of sensitive, of being sensitive. Sensitivity. Because there’s so much wisdom and there’s so much power in our sensitivity.
0:12:37 B: Yeah. Oh, I love that. You know, I feel like I have to share or bring this up now, even though we’re not even into your book yet, we haven’t really even talked about anything about you. But I need. I feel like this just aligns so much. When I was reading your book and it’s called Life’s Poetic Glossary, the Humanity of Everyday Words. When I was reading your book, one word in particular really stood out to me.
0:13:05 B: And that word was courage. And that word stood out to me because of the simplicity with which you wrote in your book. And I’m going to share what you wrote. You said, courage is the triumph of being yourself. That’s it. Literally, that is all you wrote on the page.
0:13:30 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And he’s my motto.
0:13:33 B: And I just sat there. I’m like, that. That’s it. How do we take one simple, simple concept and turn it into this whole story filled with triggers, filled with negative connotations, filled with fears and societal programming, when really courage is literally that simple?
0:14:01 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Yes, it really is. I thank you, by the way, for highlighting that word. If. If I could share a personal meaning. For me, embedded in that definition is that in my own journey of healing, in my own journey of becoming who I am today, I have been a voracious learner and also so fixated on the healing process that there was a part of me at times that was more focused on that than actually just finding that kernel of who I am and being in the expression of it without trying to force myself to be brave, forcing myself to break through my fears, which then has the opposite effect of relaxing into just being ourselves.
0:14:55 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So for me, in writing that definition, and in a way, it was about removing that need to overcome fear and to be. Become the best version of ourselves and to become whatever we think we’re meant to be so that we can just be it and. And not, you know, not worry about anything else, really, and not be concerned about the gap between where we used to be, where we are now, where we are now, versus where we’re headed, and we can just be.
0:15:36 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And so that definition, for me, gave. Gave me a lot of solace and a sense of celebration and woven into that word triumph, like, I think that’s just a success every day. If we get to be ourselves, that is enough courage. We don’t need to force ourselves to be brave.
0:15:57 B: Yeah. And two. Kind of relating that word, I mean, exactly. That is about being who you are at the kernel of your essence. But even connecting that to the. The concept of what you talked about with the word sensitivity. I know. And maybe this is why it stood out to me. I know that when I see the word courage, I’m like, I got to stand up. I got to be strong woman. I got to push forward. I got. All of a sudden, it becomes this word that has.
0:16:34 B: It has a unhealed feminine underneath it. And I say from the feminine side, I’m sure that the masculine also has that, but it has a very unhealed piece. And when I read that and read that one line, it literally shifted the TR and transitioned that energy for me, and I’m like, but that’s not there. This is a. This is a healed word. So I loved it. I loved it.
0:17:04 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Those words are music to my ears. Because one of my intentions with writing this book, I would say it wasn’t a goal, it was really just. It was an intention that I set out to redefine these words, to extract both the negative and positive associations that we can attach to words and our lived experiences and, and see them as more neutral and life giving and supportive. And I love this connection you made about the quality of pushing and kind of like bucking up to be brave, being the shadow side of, of the feminine or the pushing. The pushing is what I heard in what you were saying.
0:17:55 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Oh yeah, the feminine. So I really appreciate that reflection. Thank you.
0:18:00 B: Yeah, you’re welcome. You’re welcome. Well, your journey is incredibly diverse, spanning from environmental science to trauma therapy, and now you’re guiding people in relational dynamics and sensuality. So I would love for you to just talk a little bit about this story of yours. Sharing a story from your path that maybe really inspires you to shift towards helping other people in this deeper level of healing.
0:18:32 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: I would love to speak about that and my long and very varied career in the context of being oneself, since we’re just dovetailing from that in the definition of courage. And for me, my life journey has about trusting that next step, knowing that it’s something that I need to experience in my life that will expand me and help me to grow. Not because I think I need it to become the next version of myself, but I just feel a connection and resonance to the embodiment of artistry or in, in different businesses that I’ve done too.
0:19:23 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So in that context, yes, I started off as an environmental advisor and that was very much my passion for wanting to save the world. As a young 20 something year old. I got my degree, I worked for government agencies, I got, you know, did all the good things that I was supposed to do and getting work experience, internships. And then I worked for a multinational corporation where I had health care and views of the mountains from the 27th floor in Canada, which was. It was a pretty flush situation.
0:19:59 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And I. It was soul sucking. It was really soul sucking. I didn’t feel that I could apply my creativity, my vision, my potential in the architecture of the corporate world, at least in that day. So I followed this calling to move into storytelling. And the way I did that was I gave everything up. I sold my house, which I owned at a very young age, my car, the whole job, everything. And I moved to New York to become an actor.
0:20:36 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And when I trusted in that pull, life rewarded me. I was given a full package from the company that had hired me. I had a great relationship with my boss, and I started to really learn in the practical way of what happens when we trust that leap of faith and move into the next iteration. So I pursued acting as a career for just over a decade. And I worked in film and theater and basically whatever kind of work I could get while I was doing other jobs outside of that, some of which included real estate, which has always been part of my life in terms of investment and building investment.
0:21:21 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And then I had a major, major, major shift. It was probably the most. The biggest turning point of my life when it came to recognizing how I’d been living a lot of my life in fear when it came to intimacy and being able to trust that I could just be myself in the company of someone who I deeply loved and cared for. And I had a lot of fears around thinking that if I expressed my desires, the relationship would be over. I feared loss of love.
0:21:55 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And I abandoned myself so many times. And as I did that, this was before I did really any kind of deep healing work. I had always been a meditator and practiced yoga, but I hadn’t done any of the deeper work yet. And so, long story short, I came to a point where I was deciding to have a child or not. And I loved the person who I was with. We both thought we wanted children, and my whole body shut down from sex when we decided to have a child together.
0:22:32 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And I was so distraught because my body was telling me one thing. My heart was full of mixed messages. And I just started to. I’m not religious, but I started to pray. Like, pray for something that could show me some kind of clarity through this. So that brought me into another version of courage, which was doing ayahuasca for the first time. And this was before anyone was talking about it. Like, none of my friends knew what it was.
0:23:06 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: It wasn’t being talked about anywhere. There was no science backing it up at that time. It was really just trusting a facilitator who I was learning breath work with at the time. And he brought me into the jungle with the small handful of other people, of courageous souls. And it was in those 10 days that my world broke open. Like, every part of me who I thought was me, all of these thoughts and emotions that I had that I thought that were very much based on fear, and they just seemed so familiar and like, oh, this is normal.
0:23:46 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And when I realized that none of that is me, I was terrified because I didn’t know who I was. And I didn’t know, well, if I’m not all those things that I thought I was. Who am I? So back to the, you know, triumph of being oneself and courage. I did realize that I was in that relationship based on fear and fear of losing love, essentially. And I was terrified of not being able to find who I really was without all of those beliefs and conditionings. And I had a lot of trauma, too, that was related to body shutdown, which wasn’t a new thing.
0:24:27 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So my journey led me to somatic experiencing. I benefited very much from it alongside family constellations. Both of those I’ve been practicing now for over a decade. And I became certified in both of them. And they both changed my life astronomically because ayahuasca brought me the clarity, but it didn’t bring me tools on how to integrate this inquiry of who am I? And once I know what that is, how do I be that?
0:25:04 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So both constellation work, which is one of the deepest experiential modalities that I’ve ever done, and somatic work, really helped to connect the cognitive with the heart and the body so I could realign and embody a true version of myself. And so that led me to, you know, what I desire to bring to others is a way of being in relationship to ourselves that empowers our relationship with others and the world so that regardless of the circumstances that we find ourselves in, that we maybe can’t change that we can’t change those circumstances, but we can change our relationship to the circumstances and how we relate and respond to those circumstances.
0:26:06 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And then just another piece and I’ll wrap up the becoming aspect of to where I am now. I was coaching people for a few years and I felt the model of one on one was limited. And I knew I wanted to grow and expand. So I founded a retreat house where I hosted small groups. And they were. I mean, I accommodated small groups. So it wasn’t just me curating the retreats. There were all kinds of people coming in, curating their own retreats.
0:26:43 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And I provided the space and the beauty, if I do say so myself, where people could really relax, like talk about night, not needing to push through. I really believe that beauty is one of those things, environmentally that can give us a profound sense of relaxation and connection to who we truly are inside. So I created the space that others could come into and feel that connection with themselves and each other to do their, you know, their best work in the world and then covet, hit.
0:27:20 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And I sold the business, took a sabbatical, wrote this book. And I’m at The crossroads of who am I Now?
0:27:32 Tansy Rodgers: Let’s take a second and check in to see how you’re really feeling. Not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, energetically. If you’ve been feeling scattered, drained, disconnected, or just stuck in a cycle that you can’t seem to break free from, your energy might be calling for some deep, intentional support. And that’s where energy healing comes in. This isn’t about forcing a breakthrough or fixing something.
0:28:00 Tansy Rodgers: It’s about clearing away. Clearing away what’s weighing you down, clearing away and helping you to reconnect you to your own innate power. Whether you’re navigating emotional shifts, you’re needing clarity, or you just, just are craving a reset distance, energy healing can help you align, release and restore balance. And if you’re local to my area here in Liddit’s Lancaster, Pennsylvania, we can do this in person too.
0:28:31 Tansy Rodgers: If this is speaking to you, head down to the link in the show notes. Let’s get your energy flowing again. Let’s get you onto that proverbial table because you don’t have to do it all alone. Jump into the show notes, click the link and grab a spot so we can get you feeling more balanced and clear again.
0:28:54 B: Wow. Thank you for sharing your becoming story. And I love, I love that we’re having this conversation right at your crossroads. That’s really interesting. You know, as you were talking, all I could think about was how easy on your journey, how easy it could be for somebody to fall into this state of victim mindset. And especially now that you are at this crossroads, it’s like another time to step into your courage and figure out with clarity how you’re going to move forward. Right?
0:29:30 B: But even thinking back to the beginning when you talked about that word sensitive and you said that there’s so many negative con connotations around that word.
0:29:43 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: How.
0:29:43 B: Thinking about that word, thinking about all of these moments that you took to step into courage, thinking about how easy it would be to get into victim mindset. How do you get out of fixing mentality, fixing brain? Like, I need to fix this. I’m. I’m broken. I have all, all these issues because I can only imagine how many times you might have had that bus stop at your stop at your bus stop and gave you the choice to step on.
0:30:17 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Yes, again, a an exquisitely crafted question. Thank you for so how do I continually, I will say continually because I believe in my life, it, it’s got to be a practice. Otherwise, default modes, I believe they’re always there. They’re always an option Right. And the default mode of being a victim and saying, oh, I’ve always got more to fix has been a deep programming of mine personally. And that has bled into very much this behavior of managing everything and being in control that way.
0:31:02 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Also in terms of how I used to run my, my businesses. And, and so now where I’m very fortunate, I happen to be in a place where I live a wonderful life. I have financial freedom, which I’ve worked really hard for my entire life. And so I have a lot of choice, right? Like, I’m not operating from survival mode anymore. And still, still these little, like, manager hats, they. They dance into my sphere and they’re like, hey, I’m over here, we’re here.
0:31:42 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: You could do this, that, and even think. Like, using my mind to think through what I want to create is a more subtle version of that. Or even using my mind to. Or my, you know, I would say a combination of my intuition and my, My creative self to vision what I want for myself. Now my mind can get involved in that and think, oh, the grandiose idea could be this or that, but that actually brings me away from the present.
0:32:17 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And that bigger vision can create a lot of pressure in me is what I’m discovering at this crossroad where I do have a big vision and I feel excited about it. And yet sometimes the bigger the vision, the more pressure. I’ll speak personally for myself, the more pressure that can generate inside of me. And so how I deal with that is I come back to the simplicity again, coming back to my original motto of keeping things simple.
0:32:53 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: It’s like, what is the next thing that feels fulfilling and pleasurable and expansive? Because at the end of the day, it’s really about how we feel every day, right? And what, how we’re engaging with what we’re doing, how we’re engaging with ourselves and others around us while we’re creating, while we’re living our quote, unquote, best lives. And so, and being, you know, also having the ambition of wanting to be in service of the world, which is another.
0:33:25 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: I’ll again, I’ll speak for myself that, you know, desire can show its face in the term, in terms of ego sometimes and, and be very counterproductive, like, oh, I need to be this thing in order to become myself. And I have a line in my book in under the word Identity that speaks to that, where sometimes we have an idea of ourselves and who we think we need to be. Especially, you know, when it comes to branding and demonstrating to others what we’re we’re doing and passionate about and what our vision is, sometimes we think we need all of that just to be ourselves in the world. We don’t.
0:34:10 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: We just. We don’t. And so again, it’s. For me, it’s recognizing that. And I realize I went a little bit of a tangent, though. You. You said something really important in this question was how do you shift from, you know, any victim mentality? So part of that for me is the behavior that comes up in me in wanting to be in control, which all of us have different versions of this, as I’m sure you know, and you see in your clients.
0:34:52 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So for me, it’s about unhooking from that. First and foremost, recognizing it, and then recognizing that. That managing behavior is because I feel. Feel unsafe or afraid in some way. So if I take the time to just acknowledge my fear and give them space. I have another line in my book that speaks to this too. It’s that expression is the liberator of rumination. So giving space to acknowledge and see the emotions that are causing us conflict or internal strife, pressure that are, you know, rooted in survival mode in some way, in victimhood.
0:35:38 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: If we can make that connection between survival and victimhood, it’s really taking a step back and giving them a voice and letting them be acknowledged and then finding underneath that, in my deeper knowing, the expansive, the life giving, the pleasurable, the enlivening orientation to that situation, person, place, or thing. And then I can choose that, but it takes those steps so that I can choose it.
0:36:23 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And that’s my. My personal, you know, it’s my personal little meandering on coming back, you know, coming back to who I really am and not be governed by just those mechanisms that can so easily become default patterns rooted in survival. We all have them and that there’s nothing bad in them. One of my biggest challenges, too, in my life has been to unhook from judgment as well. And I find that the more curious, you know, if you maybe experience this too, as someone who works with people in their healing journeys, but also in expanding into who they’re becoming, is that, oh, dear, I just lost where I was going with that.
0:37:24 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: I’m sure it’ll come back to me.
0:37:28 B: Yeah, not a problem. Not a problem. If it comes on back.
0:37:33 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Thank you. Oh, it just. It totally went away. But anyways, we come back to that.
0:37:41 B: That’s okay.
0:37:42 Tansy Rodgers: Yeah.
0:37:42 B: If it comes on back. Feel free to throw that in at any time. Yes. Yeah. You know, one thing I. I want to. I want to Say, that was a real aha. When you first started talking about this, I never. I never really looked at it from this set of eyes is how many people in this world really are in fix it mentality. And I’m not just talking about us as individuals. I’m also talking about therapists, coaches, professionals.
0:38:11 B: Like all of the people that we’re working with to get out of fix it mentality are actually stepping in as the codependent part of that fix it mentality and just instilling it deeper.
0:38:25 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Exactly. Oh, amen to that for calling that out. There’s this. I’ll just name it. It’s something I identify with in my own experience. But it also so prevalent in the collective, is under the banner of being in service and of helping others to heal. There’s this savior complex that comes in which has this belief riddle. It’s riddled with the belief that we can save others and that we can save ourselves.
0:39:00 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And the fact of. Or thought that we need to save ourselves is, you know, inherently connected to the belief that we need to fix ourselves or others. And so it’s such an important aspect, I think, of when we are becoming more of who we are just by the triumph of relaxing into being ourselves and being ourselves, that we can detach from the fixation on fixing, whether it’s us being in service or receiving.
0:39:42 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And I know for myself, especially being steeped in the personal growth world and where friends and colleagues are so ready to give and offer support, it’s like I’ve really had to step back from that and just say, even at times, that I can really appreciate the intent is to help. And it comes from a place of caring and love. And yet the very suggestion can trip me up in thinking, oh, there’s something I need to do to fix myself.
0:40:16 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So it’s. It can be so subtle, this awareness and. Yeah.
0:40:25 B: Yeah. And then catching yourself and then shifting that. You know, you talked about how you have all of these big visions and you can really see how you want to create this life of yours. Right. Which I would think that that can really cause lots of simple life pleasures. Like when you start to get into vision mode and you excited and you’re thinking about the creation of. Right. It can cause lots of simple life pleasures.
0:40:54 B: And when you can unhook from egoic identity, use the word identity, use judgment. Like when you can unhook from those egoic places of those two words and shift into seeing the simplicity, I feel like there is so much more that can expand. Could you share maybe Some personal or advised practices that can help maintain this joy of seeing the simple life giving experiences and pleasures that maybe fall into our everyday lives.
0:41:28 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Yeah, I would like to share about that and to tie it back to the book. Writing this book was very much a process of unhooking and marinating in the life giving qualities of lived experiences where I had, you know, both positive and negative associations with words. And for me, I know and what I would invite others to experiment with is to connect with those inner sensations of what’s life giving in relationship to a word, for example, was my way of doing it through writing this book.
0:42:15 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Really connecting with the sensations in your body as you’re feeling those. Those inner qualities and then start to give voice to them by writing them down and using metaphor is is my invitation. Why? Because metaphor has such an intelligence and penetrates the heart. When we penetrate our hearts, we penetrate the body and then we live the experience, we live the new experience. And instead of then needing to do a lot of exercises, you get like the really quick fix, in my opinion, a quick fix of feeling that heart connection.
0:43:01 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And when we can feel the vibration of what we’re imagining or connecting with in our third eye or in meditation, we feel that in the heart. That’s where the magic is, that’s where the embodiment happens. And I invite that notion of first connecting with the inner sensation, naming and tracking the sensations in the body and then really articulating what that is and how you know that you are experiencing that.
0:43:33 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And then it can just be, you know, a compass, a touch point to look at and reference every day much more effortlessly be my offering.
0:43:45 B: I First, I love that answer. And second of all, I’m over here laughing to myself so hard because literally I wrote down two things when I was reading your book. I wrote, I feel like this book tells a story of transformation, the beginning of contemplation, hearing and change and then at the very end transformation and graduating to deeper soul connection. It just feels, it felt like a journey. It felt like a talisman of really eliciting feelings in a new way and giving human emotions of voice.
0:44:25 B: That’s what it felt like to me. And so I love that answer because that was exactly what I felt when I was going through the words and the chapters of the book and just understanding how the energy within me felt like it was like it was. It was meeting me at a certain level and helping to raise me up as I was going along. I don’t know if that was your intention, but that was what it did for me and, and how I felt as I was reading it.
0:44:54 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Thank you for sharing that. It. It’s gratifying, honestly, to hear that because it was my intention and I take it as just evidence when we put an intention out there, it does have a ripple effect. Yes. And. And further to that intention is that when I connect with poetry, it’s such a visceral experience. And so in addition to it, the words penetrating my heart and their simplicity, like, really distilled down to one or two lines, which is something I’m also very passionate about.
0:45:44 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: I’m. I’m not super in other forms of writing. I can be very verbose, but I do love simplicity. And so when there’s a phrase or a definition that I’ve written that I’m connecting with in my body, my hope is that that translates to others. But there’s no way for me to know whether it would or not without the feedback. So I really appreciate that you experienced it as a journey that way and as a talisman. What a beautiful word.
0:46:18 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Fantastic. Fantastic.
0:46:21 B: Yeah. Well, you know, and even thinking about how I felt during the reading of the book, I almost felt. And again, it’s. This is coming back to the whole concept of journey. I almost felt like it was allowing me to step into a little bit more self love and self connection. So let’s talk a little bit about self love, especially in terms of relationships. Relationships maybe to yourself, to people around you from your experience.
0:46:54 B: What does genuine self love actually look like within the dynamics of a relationship? And I’m also curious if you have, if you have something in the book that connects to this, let’s connect that right here so people can see, listeners can hear how that connects.
0:47:09 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Yes, I would love to share maybe two words on this that are in the book. One is discernment, another is sovereignty. And then I do have a word in the book that self love. Though my experience of putting self love in practice would be to adopt from my definitions of discernment and sovereignty and perhaps power as well. So I’ll start with discernment as it relates to self love. For me, learning what the word, how the word discernment is different than judgment was really important.
0:47:59 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So discernment is being able to recognize something through contrast. Right. Of what something is and with what something isn’t. And it’s simple. Judgment has an overlay of story attached to what something is and what something isn’t. So in my own process of self love, and I’m so glad we’re talking about this because for me, self love is about how we interact with ourselves. The voices in our heads that we either know are there or not there.
0:48:40 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And so it’s really being able to discern between the voices in our head that are actually supporting us and the ones that seem like they’re supporting us, that are actually bullying us and what I mean by that. And again, I’m sure you’ll appreciate this. Being in the, the personal growth and healing world, I’ve had so many thoughts such as, oh, I need to be doing this, I need to be doing that. I need to be going to the gym every morning and drinking celery juice. I know it’s good for me, I know it makes me feel good, all these things. But that word need has a really subtle underpinning of judging myself for not doing it and for doing it.
0:49:32 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And both are very loaded and both of those loaded judgment stories, whatever we want to call them, those, those cause a lot of pressure. So for me, when we’re talking about self love, it’s been really important to be still. I mean, my practice is to meditate in the morning so I can have distance from my thoughts and be able to recognize them. Because if I can’t recognize them, they’re just going to run the show. I’m not even going to know they’re there.
0:50:06 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So once I can recognize them and really inquire into them and that process of inquiry can look like, is it true? Is it true that I really need to go to the gym if it’s making me. And then I write down how it makes me feel and just keep on asking, is it true? Is it true? And how do I know it’s true? And there’s an inquiry process that Byron, Katie teaches and is very known for around this. And it’s, it’s been a part of my practice too over the years.
0:50:36 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: But it’s one of the tools that does bring that discernment when it comes to self love. And then you mentioned self love in the context of being in relationship with others. And what that means for me is being discerning about. And this is still, it’s an ever changing learning processes. I learn more about myself. It’s discerning the difference between walls and boundaries, both in myself and then how I’m receiving that from others. Because if there’s a wall that someone’s giving me, there’s not anything, I can’t do anything about that.
0:51:24 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: But in the past, if I, or if now, if I don’t recognize that it’s a wall and that there’s nothing more to do for my side. I might judge myself and start thinking, oh, there must be something more that I can do. Maybe I wasn’t clear enough in that moment or understanding enough in that moment and all of those kinds of ideas of self talk. So again, in relating to others, this practice of getting still to know what’s really true is so important because that’s what gives the discernment.
0:51:59 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So that’s what I would say about that.
0:52:03 B: I want to highlight the word sovereignty. I actually bookmarked it and so this is another one that’s, that stood out to me. And so you wrote that sovereignty, sovereignty is like just when we talk about the basic definition, it is accessing power within versus powering over. So simple, right? But what I loved about the entire message that you wrote here about sovereignty is that not only is it a simple word, but it’s a simple word that invokes a feeling of inner power through story and through painting a picture.
0:52:42 B: So as you go through, you wrote if sovereignty is asked a question and she’s not clear about her response, she might say something like, I prefer to wait to give you my answer until I’m 100% clear. Right now I’m only at 25% of clarity. She will not answer just because someone is expecting an answer. I’m telling you, Raya, when I read that, I was like, there it is. That feels so healthy, powerful. Like it feels like, listen, I’m only 25% of my battery of clarity and I can’t give you an answer. Like I felt when I read that. I felt like I was taking back my power.
0:53:28 B: And so I love that you brought that word up in connection to the self love because it’s really about not just the word of sovereignty, it is what the underlying message is and the power of the word that you can connect to, to actually create this air of self love around you.
0:53:50 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: You know, we said beautifully said. I, I was just smiling so widely when you, you started reading those words about, oh, you know, I’m only 25 clear. So I have gotten myself in so much trouble trying to express what’s not clear. And then it gets in a convoluted conversation with someone else where I’m not clear. So everything that I’m saying is not going to be clear between us. And then also, you know, to piggyback on that again, being in, in, let’s say in the context where a lot of my friends are coaches, the, the coach in them or in me can come into it and try to fix the situation of what’s not clear. And then it’s can be a big mess.
0:54:41 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So I really appreciate that that one simple act of acknowledging and recognizing that not being 100% clear and the agency to not speak just because someone is expecting an answer spoke to you because it came through a lot of experience. Experience of needing to learn the hard way.
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0:56:31 B: And isn’t it amazing though? How is it amazing how easier it is to go through the hoopla of trying to explain yourself when you’re not clear versus versus just simply saying, you know what, I’m not 100% clear. I have to, I’ll have to get back to you on that. To me that feels ten times harder because that means I have to stand up and I have to set that boundary and I have to potentially allow somebody to not be happy with my answer. And I’m to like there’s this whole ripple effect of a story that goes through my head and it feels like a shot in my heart and I’m like, I’ll just try to bumble it out when in reality it’s not doing service for anybody in the situation.
0:57:21 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Yes, I understand. I mean I relate 100 as well and I, because I’ve experienced so many times the detriment of it, I don’t feel the fear saying it anymore. I just need to remember it. Yeah, painting the pattern of, you know, feeling like I need to respond When I don’t have 100% clarity.
0:57:44 B: Yeah.
0:57:45 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And again, there’s that word need, right. And all the expectations of what around what we think we need to be to be a good human being. But is that true? Does that make me a less good human being? Because A, I don’t have 100% clarity and B, I don’t have an answer right now. No.
0:58:04 B: Right. You know, and as we were just talking about that, I know that a key part of your teachings is really integrating the body wisdom and bringing that into the equation. And so as I was saying that, I thought, interesting. That word translates to that thought translates to feeling like there is something sticking through my heart. And now all of a sudden I have this physical and this visceral response.
0:58:34 B: So I’m curious if you can talk a little bit about how does getting in touch with your physical self change the way that maybe we relate to others, relate to our, Relate to these words?
0:58:48 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Well, first I would say that when there is that fear that’s alive, that kind of stops you in your tracks and you feel like the clenched throat, the piercing in your heart. My practice has evolved to being, to questioning the like, to writing down the fear and as specific as possible and all the things that the fear makes me feel in my body and the way it makes me behave towards others and myself and getting a really good, like, data download on that, on the specifics, and then to really slow it down and ask, you know, are these thoughts that I’m thinking about myself, are they true and going through that process?
0:59:33 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So that’s one way because by doing that and getting the clarity of, oh, I’m actually not hurting the other person, I’m actually hurting them more. And you can see in the micro moments of how you’re hurting them more by not speaking to that simple truth in the moment, then it just shifts automatically in the body because we’re not believing the thought anymore. So one is getting clear about is that thought really true? Because that thought’s generating all kinds of emotion in the body and a physiological response.
1:00:05 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So that’s one doorway in and then another doorway in, which is part of. It’s a more somatic angle. And it’s what I practiced as a somatic experience facilitator is that you connect with your body and really connect even with. If. If it’s like a pin prick of a sensation in your body that you can name as either pleasurable or feeling grounded or relaxed or calm. It might be like the arch of your foot, but one little tiny part of your body that you can identify that feels ah, like it feels safe or okay or alive.
1:00:59 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And spend some time connecting with that and just naming the qualities and how you know that you know, you feel calm. Keep connecting it to the sensation and then come back to that fear. Like if it’s in your heart and allow yourself to kind. I mean it’s usually done with a facilitator, but you can do it yourself too of just touching into that fear. And when you can experience feeling both of those things at the same time, a little bit of the fear and a little bit of that sensation that feels grounded or pleasurable, the fear changes.
1:01:39 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: It can’t. Not because you’re connecting. Your awareness is focused on those two physiological truths in your body. And when we do this, you know it as if it were a session, you would be doing it over the time and experiencing little changes over time. And then the, the physical sensation would dissipate and you would have awarenesses along the way. Though I have found that even with myself doing it in meditation, if you feel your body has capacity to, and your mind is already to, you know, you’re able to focus on those two things at the same time.
1:02:21 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: It’s a beautiful way to be able to move through the energy somatically that’s keeping, keeping that constriction happening. That’s how the trauma and lived narratives in our bodies can get released without overwhelming the nervous system.
1:02:42 B: And I was going to ask about those traumas. How important is it to address these past traumas from your journey in this work to really be able to connect in? Because I know, at least with so many clients that I’ve worked with in different capacities over the years, I have found that trauma actually cut them off from being able to feel into their body, their physical body.
1:03:12 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: That’s so common. So I’ll just speak for again from my own experience as a somatic practitioner. It’s so common to be numbed out from feeling. And we’re not used to focusing our minds on sensation. So it might take someone several sessions before they can even identify sensation in their body. Because that’s kept them in, in a holding pattern of feeling safe. And it’s the only way their body knows how to feel safe so far in life.
1:03:46 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And so it can take practice even to identify a sensation which is a huge act of courage in being oneself, the triumph of being oneself to recognize what’s happening in the now and when we can. One of the things I love about somatic work is that when we can focus on sensation, it takes away the narratives.
1:04:11 Tansy Rodgers: Right.
1:04:11 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: It takes away the charge of the narrative. So if we can simply focus on the sensation and bring it back to the now, it really helps to. And, you know, especially if you’re with a practitioner who’s, who’s guiding you and you feel safe with them. Right. So your, Your brain knows in this time and space you’re safe, that you can, you can touch into those moments that feel scary to even identify sensation, because it can be very scary because that means you’re alive.
1:04:47 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And if you’re alive, then, you know, memories that are held in the body that support your narratives can come up and that. And I’m not saying that that’s always going to be the case, but it can, it can. And either way, by connecting with the sensation and we, we use the word titrate in somatic practice, where you can be with the expansive feelings in your body while you’re titrating and releasing the trauma, little bits of the time.
1:05:20 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So it doesn’t need to be scary, it doesn’t need to be overwhelming. So it’s a very gentle way of unfreezing, like, to come back to what you’re saying of. Some people just can’t feel sensation and are not aware of it. And it takes time and it’s so possible with practice. It’s really, really possible. And there’s no, there’s nothing wrong with it either. We all have it. We just all have it to different degrees.
1:05:49 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: This freeze mechanism.
1:05:52 B: Yeah. And, you know, I’m going to share a little bit of a personal story. You don’t know when you’re in freeze until you’re actually in freeze and then come out of it. It’s like that transition, like, you, you have no clue what’s going on. Because I remember one pivotal point for me when I hit burnout, and I was. I had no clue I was in active burnout. I had no clue that I was in active burnout. I was operating and functioning just fine.
1:06:27 B: So I thought until. Until I hit the wall where it became inactive and I literally went into freeze mode laying on the floor. I couldn’t move my body physically, physiologically, mentally, emotionally. I couldn’t process anything. I just laid there and I was in complete, complete freeze. Eventually I was able to move out of it. I was able to transition into my bed and. And I slept. And the next morning I took the day off from any kind of work and just really knew that it was not. I was fortunate that I do the work that I do because I understood and knew what was happening.
1:07:09 B: But the next day I took that time and I started to do some yoga and some somatic work and I started to move my body. And I will tell you what, Raya, I had tears pouring out of me. My body was shaking, literally shaking, because my nervous system was coming back online and I was coming out of that freeze mode. If I did not understand what was going on and didn’t allow myself to gently keep pushing through it, I would have had no clue.
1:07:43 B: Or I should say, I would have been so exhausted, scared and afraid of why I was literally, physiologically, psychologically shaking on my yoga mat. Yeah, it’s crazy.
1:07:57 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Yeah. Thank you for sharing that story. It really speaks to something super important, which is what can come up for us when we’re experiencing sensations such as shaking in our bodies and we don’t understand it and our minds so won’t understand it and it freaks us out. And I’m so glad that you brought that up because if there’s something that I would love for listeners to take away from a somatic experience perspective around this is like trust in your body’s self healing mechanism and whatever it’s doing, just allow it.
1:08:43 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Just allow, allow, allow it. And the other thing I would say too, and I, I recognized this with some clients who I used to work with, we generally, I think, understand that movement can be really good for us, right? Whether it’s just raising our heart rate, whether it’s, you know, just to get out of our heads. And your story really brings up another subtlety that I would, I’d love to speak to for a moment, which is you knew to move your body, right? Like you have this awareness that you knew that much to do that.
1:09:20 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And what I’ve seen some people do is when they’re like on the verge of some kind of panic attack, they’ll go hard into working out and they’ll be like putting all of their energy into, to muscling through, literally muscling through, through really rigorous workout or through lifting weights. And all of that energy is getting channeled into like contracting the muscles again. So one distinction that I’ve learned to be profoundly helpful is when I’ll just say we. And for anyone who’s listening, when we get in those moments of contraction and we know that we need to move our bodies, allow for the grace of moving slowly because there’s a synopsis that happens in our bodies, in the muscular chemistry, that when we move slowly enough, we get a connection to our emotions.
1:10:24 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And when we have that connection to our emotions through the slow movement, there’s a much greater possibility to have an emotional release. And we don’t need to know what the emotional release needs, but just the act of having it can be very freeing. And so that it sounds like you innately knew how to support yourself and through the movement and eventually just let yourself do what you needed to do, which is such a gift to. Such a gift to be able to be a chaperone to yourself that way.
1:11:03 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And again, courage.
1:11:08 B: And I’ll say that part of that knowing that understanding of the trauma that was trying to move through me was definitely. Was definitely part of my work and my. My skill set. But I will also say, too, that it was a huge factor of my intuition and allowing myself to step back and just say, what do I actually need? And then stop a moment and actually listen. That was the key, was to listen what I needed.
1:11:39 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Golden. Yes.
1:11:41 B: Yeah. So let’s talk a little bit about intuition, because I feel like that’s connected. It’s sort of connected to this. At least in my experience, it was how does intuition really feed in creating more meaningful and intimate connections with others, but also with yourself? And. And what are some initial steps, maybe, that the listeners can take to really strengthen their intuitive abilities in their relationships, in their life, you know, however you see it most important to express it today.
1:12:22 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: I have experimented so much with my intuition in different angles. And for myself, one of the very first steps is what you’ve just expressed, which is the power of the pause. And then taking a moment to check in, get still, close my eyes, ask good questions. What do I need? Good questions, helpful questions. What do I need? Is a wonderful question. What’s the next step? What does my heart need to know right now?
1:13:03 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: That’s one that a friend taught me. It’s always very rich. And then also I want to speak to. It’s a more recent discovery of mine in my own laboratory of applying my intuition. And it’s that I can recognize my own intuition very easily through my body, through the felt sense, which is sensation, which is feeling having a strong connection to my heart and feeling myself and others through that connection.
1:13:42 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So that’s been one facet of intuition that I’ve cultivated myself and become intimate with over the years. And that has also come from slowing down and really tuning into how. Asking how am I feeling? What? You know, what does that feeling want to tell me? Right now? That’s more of a gestalt approach. And then there’s the intuition that comes from dreams. I have a Long practice of writing down my dreams. And it used to be very extensive.
1:14:16 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Like I would become each person, place or thing in my dream and then ask, you know, what, what’s its purpose and what is it afraid of? And I’d get all kinds of information. But there’s, I think, a more a direct way that I’ve come to be with my dreams and it’s just to connect what is the feeling of that dream and how is it mirrored somewhere in my life that I need to pay attention to and why? And that’s condensed it quite a bit.
1:14:48 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And then the third doorway for me, which has been even more recent, is so I experimented a lot with, in my meditations, connecting with what a friend and mentor would call the angelic realm. And in the way that it was taught to me, it was like connecting to a very specific frequency that I could identify and know I was connecting with and to bask in that and then ask questions. And it was so informative to get higher perspective that way.
1:15:23 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: However, I wasn’t always connected with my body through that avenue, so I’d get great information about it. However, the information was so high level for me that it wouldn’t be able to play out necessarily or be clear as what is the next step. So that is why, again, coming back to the felt sense in my body where I’m closer to embodying something is helpful. And I. I find that’s always, for me, one of the more clear and more practical and tactical ways to use intuition.
1:16:04 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Does that make sense to you how I describe the two doorways?
1:16:07 B: It absolutely does.
1:16:09 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Say, I guess in the psychic realm is what one, one therapist is told.
1:16:17 B: It definitely does. And, and I will say I’ve had experience with that. I too have connected vibrations and have gotten beautiful messages. But I have found that sometimes they’re beautiful. They help to guide, but they’re not very practical in the immediate moment. And what I need. So what I will then do is take those messages and take a moment and connect into human tansy and just really understand.
1:16:47 B: All right. How can I take this and just bring it into the situation or my everyday life with where I’m at right now?
1:16:55 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Beautiful. I’d say my very similar.
1:16:58 B: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Can I. Can I give you a number four for your. For intuition?
1:17:05 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Yes. Yes.
1:17:07 B: Because this was just something I was playing around this morning when I was, you know, reading some more of your book and prepping for our conversation today. I actually used your book to make it like an intuitive little. Almost like. Almost like a tarot deck. I used. I used your book. And I just. I took a moment and I closed my eyes and I. I couldn’t. I. I asked my higher self, my intuition, to show me the word that I needed to see right now.
1:17:39 B: And so I fanned the book out and I found where my heart wanted me to stop. And what I came up with was Joy. Joy. And let me tell you, this is so like, I actually got a little watery eyed because it was so perfect. I’ve had a few days, weeks where I’ve been feeling just a little bit low on the joy level. And so when this came in, I’m like, yep, you got it. And so it says here. Do you mind if I read it?
1:18:12 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Okay.
1:18:13 B: Okay. So Joy is a dog’s ears flapping, tongue dangling and teeth grinning as he sprints forward, drunk on the glory of living. Like someone left the gate open, Joy is active, activating hip hopping, hopscotching, and double dipping. And I love this next one because dragonflies are actually my spirit animal. Joy is a dragonfly resting its kaleidoscope wings under an infinite summer sky. Joy is blowing wishes into a rainbow of bubbles that disappears when each one plants a kiss upon a friend’s cheek.
1:18:55 B: And Joy is a child reminding you that happiness has no requirements simply by the way they react. They revel in their ice cream. The picture of Joy painted on my heart was exactly what I needed to hear. I love that so much.
1:19:15 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Oh, wonderful. Thank you for reading it. It was so nice to hear this. These definitions in someone else’s voice.
1:19:26 B: I love it. I’m curious, Raya, what word in your book, what word brings you the most joy? Which one elevates you the most?
1:19:38 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: That’s a tough one. Oh, let’s see. Which one elevates me the most right now? The sensuality one comes to mind. I remember sensuality. And my connection to my sensuality has been such an important facet of my life in many different eras and especially going through my. My healing era where I was healing a lot of childhood trauma and reconnecting with a feat. A sense of feeling safe in my body and safe in my sensuality. And freely expressed my sensuality.
1:20:27 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And I really love the line in the definition sensuality that it’s something like it’s. This isn’t word per word. But when sensuality speaks to you, you know that she belongs to the earth and so do you. And there’s just so much for me in that one line. There’s so much generosity in the knowing that we all belong and that we all have this birthright for pleasure in our bodies, just for the simple act of being alive.
1:21:07 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: And that. That at any moment is always more than enough. So that feels again, I’m. I’m revisiting the notion of sensuality as being extraordinarily life giving. And I’m so happy that I get to experience this version of me, this chapter in my body. It’s. It’s been really life giving.
1:21:36 B: I love that. I love that. Oh, right. I could talk to you for hours. This conversation is so good. As we come to an end, as we start to wrap it up, let’s talk about what you got going on. I know you’re at a crossroads right now. So where can people find you? What do you have potentially on the horizons and what are you most excited about, even potentially that could be coming up next for you?
1:22:08 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Oh, thank you. So people can find me at my website and that’s where all my upcoming things will be. My website is my birth name kristacuyet.com and I’m really excited. My audio of this book is going to be ready soon and I’m super excited about that because I feel the transmission through voice is so powerful. And I’ve had several people tell me that they’ve loved reading this book before falling asleep and having an audio postcard before falling asleep. Just one or two lines can just help to reset the nervous system and lead into a blissful sleep for the rest of the night.
1:22:53 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: So that would be my wish. The audios, I have a handful available for free right now on my website. And when you do grab the audios, you’ll automatically be entered into a draw to win a free special edition of my book. And I’m also going to have a online gathering for free that will probably be bi monthly where we get to use the power of metaphor to define who we’re becoming. So that’ll be coming up soon too. I’m excited about that.
1:23:26 B: That sounds amazing. And you’re right, the voice really carries a different kind of healing. Especially. Especially when the energy from the person of the voice is quite healed. Elevated. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, I love it. Yeah. Do you have any last words that you would like to lay on the hearts of the listeners for today?
1:23:55 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: I would just love to say be you, be free. Permission to live like the dog who’s got his tongue dangling, teeth grinning with the gate open like. Live life like the gate is open. That would be my final hurrah.
1:24:21 B: Oh, I love it. Thank you so much, Raya, for this beautiful message and the beautiful wisdom and heart and energy that you shared with listeners today. And thank you so much for the work that you’re doing on the stage of this human elevate evolution and consciousness. I appreciate you so much.
1:24:40 Krista (Rhiah) Kujat: Oh, thank you Tanzi. Likewise. I appreciate you very much and really love the opportunity to share with your audience and with you. It’s been so much fun. Thank you.
1:24:52 Tansy Rodgers: This conversation with Raya was next level. You know, I still have her book sitting on my nightstand so that in the morning when I need a little burst of inspiration and I need to connect into some good feelings to some positive mind shifting, I grab that book and I read a few of her words. It’s so good. Oh, if there is one thing that I hope that you take away from today, it’s that you don’t have to wait until you’re healed to be worthy of deep, fulfilling connections.
1:25:27 Tansy Rodgers: Maybe your biggest insight was something different. Maybe you realized how often that you fall into the trap of fixing instead of simply being. Or maybe you find yourself rethinking what self love really means inside of a relationship. Or maybe this is just a reminder that pleasure, ease and satisfaction self trust are just as powerful as deep emotional work. Whatever landed for you here today, take it and run with it. And if this episode resonated with you, I ask that you please go on over.
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